- Alexandria Penney
----- tips to maintain long r/s -----
Grow Together -
10 years is a long time, and people can outgrow each other. Ideals, principles, values can change and divert, if not managed. That’s why people grow apart. Spend time together to talk about life, about what’s important to each other. Understand each other’s priorities. Growing together helps ensue you stay together.
Support One Another, Even When He/She Is Wrong -
When it comes to the crunch, do you support your other half; or do you get critical and add to the load of negative criticism? It’s not about who’s wrong or right. It’s about showing care and support for the one you love. Everyone needs someone who believes in them, and to be behind them, for better or for worse.
Be Willing To Compromise, Even When He/She’s Not Making Sense - Sometimes you get into those grouchy mood, and you don’t make any more sense. Sometimes, it’s simply because you don’t like it, there’s no logic or reason. At times like this, would you rather have someone to hug you and say “let’s have it your way”, or do you prefer comments like “Why aren’t you making any sense?”
Listen and Understand -
Do you seek to understand your partner or are you more interested in having it your way. Effective communication requires willingness on both sides to understand one another.
Be Present -
Are you present or are you miles away? Do you “switch off” while your partner rattles on; are you always busy reading the magazine as she talks about her day. Maybe you often need to attend a conference call halfway through your dinner date. Usually, people can tolerate physical absence better, than having constant occurrences of having physical presence, but no mental presence. Be present, right here, right now.
Set Aside Time To Romance -
As busy as we may be, find time in a year for holidays together. Find short breaks to rekindle the romance. Send one another short messages of love and concern. Love does need a little gentle reminder sometimes.
Forgive and Forget -
Even when things do go wrong, when fights break out, learn to forgive; it’s not about who’s right or wrong. Then forget the fault, truly forget; no point resurfacing past misdeeds, no point crying over spilled milk. Instead, look forward to a loving tomorrow.
Know Who’s Truly Important -
Ultimately, after all life’s hassles and tussles, who’s going to stick with you through this journey? Who’s going to love you when you’re old and useless? Who’s going to support you when you’re down and out?
Hold Hands -
Always make it a point to hold hands when going out together; and we will continue to hold hands until we’re old and gray. It’s such a heartening sight to see old couples holding hands, isn’t it? 
came across this on some random website
and would like to remind myself as well as share it with you guys some tips to maintain gd r/s
hope its helpful :)
I really hope we could grow tgt. Since pri sch i have know u, its been a long time and a drastic change of age, life, environment till now. I am very sad to say I am very attitude in r/s esp whr our r/s is long enough tat alot of things i take it for granted. Both of us are extremely stubborn and we know tat our temper is not very gd either. Distant of u in msia and me on another country is adding on to the obstacle because i cant sees you everyday and as and when i need you. Even if u are sick, i cant be thr for u. :(
I have no motivation to go to work [except for the pay and some nice projects] and in fact i don't really look forward to knock off, only except the days u come and pick me up. I am still trying to get use to all this changes. And I am sure eventually we will overcome these. Because the connection is so strong tat i cant to lose u or even fall in love with another guy. You are my only love :)
Lastly, I hope you will forget and forgive me of my stupidness and harsh words, I don't mean it. Sometimes the words just came out without proper filtering, i just cant control it when i'm in bad mood. Sry alright :)
Bkk trip soon. i just cant wait to spend 3 days of 24hr with u.
ilu :)
p.s my prev post is deleted because of some HTML problems.
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